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Help Them Over It


"I beseech Euodias, and beseech Syntyche, that they be of the same mind in the Lord. And I entreat thee also, true yokefellow, help those women which laboured with me in the gospel, with Clement also, and with other my fellow labourers, whose names are in the book of life." - Philippians 4:2-3

How tragic. How sad. How disconcerting it is to see brothers and sisters at odds with each other and unwilling to find areas of agreement.

It breaks the heart of Paul to know that two special women, each occupying a special place in his heart, each of whom has meant so much in his work and in the growth of the church, are in conflict.

It is not that conflict is bad; it is just that unresolved conflict becomes a hindrance to Christian joy and witness. Euodias and Syntyche needed to work things out, but somehow, the challenge was greater than their resolve. They needed help.

Around you in the church are some folks who need that kind of help. They may or may not know it, but the help is needed nevertheless. It is needed for their spiritual health, for the sake of the relationship, and for the health of the church. They may not even realize how their stubbornness, selfishness, hurt feelings, or coldness is damaging the cause of Christ. In refusing God’s healing for the relationship and for their own pain, they are causing a festering wound that impacts the whole ministry of the church.

They need help. Sometimes that help comes in the form of a wake up call. Sometimes it is gentle prodding. More often it is loving mediation and prayer where everyone has a chance to be heard and love is restored.

Our names are written together in the book of life and we can allow no breach to continue in the fellowship. God’s love brings us together whatever our differences and there is seldom an issue worthy of dividing us that invades our ranks.

It may not be enough to say, “Get over it,” but that is what we all must do. It’s just that we may need a little help.