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Paradoxical People

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We wake up, do whatever must first be done, and stagger to the kitchen to swallow whatever must be swallowed first. Somewhere along the way, we recover enough presence of mind to make some decisions. One of those decision is who we will be this day.

We fumble through the sock drawer, the underwear drawer, and the face drawer looking for an identity. We reach into the well of moods and attitudes to extract an approach to the day. How will we present ourselves? Who will we see? What do we hope to accomplish?

Will I be the laid back, casual man I am when there are few if any demands? Will I be the dead serious all-business overachiever with a power tie? Will I dress for work or for play? Will I be positive or will I be less than positive?

Do I put on my family face, my office face, or my public face?

Will I be me or will I let the impostor inhabit my body and to what extent?

I am a paradox - as are you. We are many faces to many other faces. The real me and the real you is the "us" that we were made to be - intended for greatness, destined for relationship, designed in and for love. The Master Designer of the universe is the personal designer of each of His children. The real person is the one in the blueprints, the finished product in the mind and heart of the Creator - fearfully and wonderfully made, beloved, creative, awe-struck, funny, joyful, and caring. It is the person who has been crafted by grace, showered by mercy, and bathed in agape.

The impostor/phony is everything else that has attached itself to us. He/she/it has the capacity to imitate, obscure, and mock everything that is real and impose itself as the real thing. But it is not.

The impostor is a very powerful force with which to be reckoned, but it is not invincible. Grace gives us choices. I can put on the phony face or just be myself. If I choose to be myself, I'll need more grace and a lot of help. I will have to deal with the imposter's jeers that the real me is inadequate and I will have to assert that whatever I am is what I am and what I will be.

Like you, I am a paradox. There are many dimensions to my life, but it is still morning and I still have some choices.


Why Was I Chosen?

“‘Why was I chosen?’ ‘Such questions cannot be answered,’ said Gandalf. ‘You may be sure that it was not for any merit that others do not possess: not for power or wisdom, at any rate. But you have been chosen, and you must therefore use such strength and heart and wits as you have.’” - J. R. R. Tolkien, "The Lord of the Rings"


What Do You Really Want?

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Sometimes in life, business, and ministry, you encounter people, situations, and attitudes that make your blood boil. Your visceral reaction is to stomp the living daylights out of that raunchy attitude, express your indignation over the unjust situation, and put that person causing you difficulties in his or her place.

Quick, harsh words will do the trick and it will be all over.

Will they? Will it be  over?

What do you want? What do you really want?

Do you want your check cashed, your order filled, or your question answered? Or do you want a fleeting moment of carnal pleasure watching someone else suffer discomfort and deflation of ego?

Do you want the problem solved or do you prefer to escalate it to the next level?

Do you want the relationship mended or maimed?

Do you prefer to make an enemy or a friend or client?

Do you want to create a bad memory or a pleasant one?

Do you wish to be destructive or productive?

Do you even like yourself enough to do what is in your own best interest?

Self foot shooting is a national sport among those who would rather bath in the sulfur baths of self-justification and indignation than back up, back off, and win.

Proverbs 15:1 says, "A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger."

What is your goal here? Is it the brick wall of wrath that is more like swimming against a current than going with the flow? Is it escalating anger that gets you no where? Do you want to make your adversary angrier or would you prefer to make him or her a partner in reaching your goals?

It is really up to you, but harsh words and unbridled anger will never be your friends on the road to success. They form an attitude that, for many, is the one roadblock to personal progress. Those who possess it find endless excuses for not succeeding and they all involve someone or something that has gotten in their way and impeded them when, in fact, it is this attitude that has been in their way all along.

So, ask yourself and be honest, "What do I really want out of this?"

Once you know, adjust your attitude, soften your response, and go for it!


Not in Vain

We gathered in the shade of an old oak tree that stood sentinel over the neatly placed markers that signified the lives of ten or twelve souls whose earthly remains were interred beneath its shadows. We joined hands as we sang together,

“God be with you till we meet again … till we meet at Jesus’ feet.”

Then, we read I Corinthians 15:58.

  "Therefore my beloved brethren, be ye steadfast, unmovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord,  forasmuch as you know that your labor is not in vain in the Lord."

Minnie had labored hard for many years in God’s vineyard. It was time to say goodbye and consign her to that sacred place of memory that occupies such precious real estate in every person’s heart. Her soul was safe. She had committed that decades before to the care of a redeeming Savior. Her body

Her body, beyond our care, we committed to the earth.

I opened her well worn Bible to a passage she loved.

“We shall not all sleep, but we shall all be changed in a moment, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trumpet.”

Thoughts of her unsung heroism passed from one person to the next with memories of kind words and deeds, encouraging notes, and humble service. Minnie had achieved neither fame nor fortune in this life. She had written no books, created no fine art, or founded any great institutions. She had simply loved those who came across her path and lived a life of quiet devotion to God and others. This was her life’s work; this was her great contribution and even now, it was bearing fruit in the lives of those who would carry forth her legacy from this place.

God loses nothing.

He wastes no effort, no labor, no tear. Not one moment of our lives. We who honored Minnie that day were reminded, by her example, to be steadfast, consistent, and abounding in God’s work.

He labor in the Lord was not in vain; nor is yours.

 

Originally posted in 2007, revised


OH GOSH Attitude

Here is the OH GOSH approach to attitude. "OH GOSH" stands for Opportunity. Hope, Gratitude. Optimism, Service, and Humility.

O = Opportunity. The attitude of a winner in network marketing or any other endeavor is that of viewing every obstacle as an opportunity for any number of valuable things including learning, growth, meeting new people, helping others, validating one's credibility, and even laying down the cobblestones of success. After all, the road to success is paved with the cobblestones of failure.

H= Hope. Hope gets us up in the morning. It informs our attitude that it is OK to dream, plan, and work because something very likely will come of it. Hope is not a guarantee of no pain or discomfort. Rather it is something stronger than a possibility. It says that our futures are not in the hands of  a fatalistic principles of doom, but of a loving God who calls us to cooperate with Him in shaping them.

G = Gratitude. An attitude of gratitude recognizes the debt we have for all we have been given in life. The old joke is that if you see a turtle up a tree and he tells you he got there on his own, he is either lying or he doesn't understand the nature of things, or both. (Note: I heard this in a workshop hosted by Ken Blanchard.) We thrive on an attitude of gratitude. With it, we grow better instead of bitter through the trials of life.

O = Optimism. We choose whether to look on the bright side or the dark side of things, to focus our gazes forward or backward, and to affirm our faith rather than our doubt. Optimism is not the foe of realism. What makes us think that pessimism is more realistic than optimism? It is often the choice that determines the outcome. Get real; bring back Pollyanna.

S = Service. If we, who dabble or delve into to the realm of networking and other business ventures will adopt a servant attitude, we will stop wasting time complaining about our inconveniences, perceiving slights, and nursing wounds. Zig Ziglar called networkers to a higher focus when he said, "You can have anything you want if you make it your main objective to help other people get what they want." (paraphrased)

H= Humility. If we are servants, we will be humble. We will succeed faster if we learn that it is not all about us. It is about the IT of it and it is about the other person. Humility is not negative self-image. A person with a healthy self esteem can be very humble because he/she has nothing to prove, no reputation to fight for, no need to be heard above everyone else, and is not threatened by the success of others.


A Little Girl's Legacy

 

 

 

I read this some years back and it reminded me  of how you can be young, have few resources, and feel insignificant - yet, make a big difference. Hattie May Wiatt was an example of this truth. Give what you have in your hand and start a ripple that changes the tide of time.
 
 
Sermon By Russell H. Conwell
Sunday Morning, December 1, 1912.

 

Courtesy of Grace Baptist Church of Bluebell, PA.

 

 

We are here to unveil this picture of Hattie May Wiatt, a little girl who died in 1886. Years have gone rapidly by, but she still speaks. We intend to put this picture in the pastor's study, in the most prominent place, and keep it there through the years to come, that people as they pass through may ask: 'What meaneth that picture?' And the story, simple and wonderful, may be told.

Little Hattie May Wiatt lived in a house near the church in which we then worshipped, at Berks and Mervine, which is now occupied by the Christian Church. It was a small church and was crowded, tickets of admission were obtained sometimes weeks in advance for every service. The Sunday school was as crowded as the rest of the congregation, and one day when I came down to the church, to attend Sabbath school, I found a number of children outside. They were greatly disturbed because they could not get in, on account of the crowd of children already in the Sunday school rooms of the church, and little Hattie May Wiatt, who lived near by, had brought her books and a contribution, and was standing by the gate, hesitating whether to go back home or wait and try to get in later. I took her up in my arms, lifted her to my shoulder, and then as she held on to my head - an embrace I never can forget - I carried her through the crowd in the hall, into the Sunday school room, and seated her in a chair away back in a dark corner. The next morning as I came down to the church from my home I came by their house and she was going up the street to school. As we met, I said: 'Hattie, we are going to have a larger Sunday school room soon', and she said: 'I hope you will. It is so crowded that I am afraid to go there alone'. 'Well', I replied, 'When we get the money with which to erect a school building we are going to construct one large enough to get all the little children in, and we are going to begin very soon to raise the money for it'. It was only in my mind as a kind of imaginary vision, but I wished to make conversation with the child. The next that I heard about it was that Hattie was very sick, and they asked me to come in and see the child, which I did, and prayed with her. I walked up the street, praying for the little girl's recovery, and yet all the time with the conviction that it was not to be.

Hattie May Wiatt died. She had gathered 57 cents - some have written 54 - which was left as her contribution towards securing another building for the children. After the funeral the mother handed me the little bag with the gathered 57 cents. I took it to the church and stated that we had the first gift toward the new Sunday school building; that little Hattie May Wiatt, who had gone on into the Shining World, had left behind her this gift towards it. I then changed all the money into pennies and offered them for sale. I received about $250 for the 57 pennies; and 54 of those cents were returned to me by the people who bought them. I then had them put in a frame where they could be seen and exhibited them, and we received by a sale of the $250 changed into pennies money enough to buy the next house north of the church at Berks and Mervine. That house was bought by the Wiatt Mite Society, which was organized for the purpose of taking the 57 cents and enlarging on them sufficiently to buy the property for the Primary Department of the Sunday school. In the Wiatt Mite Society was Mr. Edward O. Elliott ( now one of our trustees) who has charge of this picture, and was then a member.

Then when the crowd became so great we could no longer get in there, the thought impressed itself upon our congregation, 'We ought to have a larger church and a larger Sunday school room'. Faith in God was the characteristic of this people, and they said, 'We can do it', notwithstanding the fact that the church had a mortgage on it then, I think, of $30,000, and that we had no money in advance. Yet the conviction was strong that we ought to build a larger church, and some ventured so far, though then it seemed absurd, to say that we might 'build on Broad Street somewhere'. But the Wiatt Mite Society, using the influence of Hattie May Wiatt's first deposit, raised the money to pay, as I said, for the house, and then the undertaking was before us, whether we would go out and try to build a large church. I walked over to see Mr. Baird, who lived on the corner where the German Athletic Association now has its meetings, and asked him what he wanted for this lot on which the Temple now stands.

He said that he wanted $30,000. I told him that we had only 54 cents toward the $30,000, but that we were foolish enough to think that some time we would yet own that lot. Encouraged by what he said, and with no opposition on the part of the Board of Deacons, I went around again to talk with him, and asked him if he would not hold the lot for five years. Mr. Baird said: 'I have been thinking this matter over and have made up my mind I will sell you that lot for $25,000, taking $5,000 less than I think it is worth, and I will take the 54 cents as the first payment and you may give me a mortgage for the rest at 5%. I went back and so reported to the church, and they said: 'Well, we can raise more money that 54 cents', but I went over and left the 54 cents with Mr. Baird and took a receipt for it as a part payment on the lot. Mr. Baird afterwards returned the 54 cents as another gift. Thus we bought the lot, and thus encouraged of God step by step, we went on constructing this building. We owed $109,000 when it was done, but we had courage and faith in God then. We could hardly have dreamed then that in the number of years that followed this people, without wealth, each giving only as he could afford from his earnings, could have paid off so great a debt without any outside help. The only outside help that we really received was from Mr. Bucknell. Although our church was then called the Grace Baptist Church, he was not willing that we should call the new building a church until the mortgage was paid. He gave us $10,000 on the condition that we call this building by some other name than the Grace Baptist Church, and that accounts for its being called The Temple instead of the Grace Church. Afterwards, when we did pay off the mortgage accounts, we dedicated the building and have a right now to call it whatever we choose, but after 21 years of being named as it is, there is no reason why we should change it, and there is no hope of doing so if we should undertake it. It will always be known as The Temple. I must state here also that in the house purchased by the sale of the 57 cents was organized The Temple University.

Now, giving simply that brief introduction to the history of Hattie May Wiatt, I wish to call your attention to two or three important lessons in connection with it:

Who are the really great of this world? Who are the mighty? Is it the king, the emperor, the president, the famous, estimated by the kingdom of heaven and on the books of God? How little we know. Our nation has given credit to Washington, to Jefferson, to Lafayette,t o the great Pitt of England, to the great generals and writers, and to great financiers like Morris, but there is one person hardly over mentioned in our history who had so much influence in our affairs that as a nation we ought to have her picture in every public hall and in every school; yet because she was a young woman she seems to have been lost to the sight of the world. That was the Princess Elizabeth, sister of Louis XVI, of France. That little woman who was a treasure of femine loveliness, with a heart as pure and bright as any that ever beat in the breast of woman; she who lived in the aristocracy of that time, but who plead for the starving, common people and protested again against Marie Antoinette's use of the public money as she did at Versailles, and spent her life in charity and loving kindness. She laid the foundation for the victory of this nation. Those who read history know that we could not have hoped for freedom if Rochambeau had not come to this country, if the French had not indorsed us, and if the French had not fought England on the waters and lands of Europe while we were trying to fight our battles here. If it had not been for Yorktown and its surrender we could never have hoped to obtain our freedom from what was then the tyrannous king of England. Who sent Rochambeau, who used the influence that brought his coming about? In some of the correspndence of Benjamin Franklin, who represented us at the Court of France, we find that the princess, a lovely young woman, was well acquainted with him and liked to talk with him upon philosophy and upon American ideas. She served as a 'go-between' with Franklin and the queen, who used her influence with the king; for Louis XVI reminds one of Henry Ward Beecher's statement with reference to his church in Ohio, when he said: 'It had only 19 members, 18 were women and the other one was nothing'. Louis XVI was really nothing, and Marie Antoinette was the power indeed behind the throne, and behind Marie Antoinette was the Princess Elizabeth. It was she who opened the way for Franklin to reach the ear of the king. It was she who went to the Prime Minister of France and secured from him the condemnation of the arms, which were sold for a few cents apiece to America, yet were just as good as the best made in the world. It was she who secured the influence of the king to declare war on England in order that he might help America to her liberty. It was that young woman, acting all the time with continued energy, with prayer as well as with her social influence as one of the royal family, who really secured to us our liberty. Yet how little is said of her. In the great records of the history of mankind she should occupy a leading place. When I think of that innocent, sweet woman going to the guillotine on that morning in the old cart, encouraging all the humbler ones in the cart with her to keep up t heir courage, to hold their faith in God and to believe in a future world; when I see that noble, patriotic martyr going to that great square where she was beheaded, I see one of the great martyrs of earth. Yet in history, I say, we find our nation remarkably silent concerning her. And so in the history of Hattie May Wiatt - the name is new to some of you. She was a school girl, living in one of the homes of the industrious, honorable, upright and saving classes of society, not of the wealthy and great, yet think how her life was used; think what God did with her and the great, yet think how her life was used; thaink what God did with her and the 54 cents that was used of hers. A glance at it would put many to shame. Think of this large church; think of the membership added to it - over 5600 - since that time. Think of the influence of its membership going out and spreading over the world. Think of the influence of the Sabbath school carried on in this great building for more than twenty years. Then think of the institutions this church founded. Think of the Samaritan Hospital and the thousands of sick people that have been cured there, and the thousands of poor that are ministered to every year. I received the report of the Samaritan Hospital for October last Saturday and find that during the month 2540 had visited the dispensary. By multiplying that by twelve to get the average for a year, we find that over 30,000 people every year go to the dispensary of that one hospital, and that does not include the inner wards for the poor or the private rooms. Then there is the other hopital, the Garrestson, also taken up by the poeple of this church. Without this church, it could never have been started. There they ministered in one single year to over 14,000 workmen, wounded and broken and dying. When we think, I say, of the ministrations of these hospitals that were started by the influence of this church and supported in the .... in the beginning by members of this church, what a long roll it is of the deeds of Christian kindness. Think of how in that Wiatt house were begun the very first classes of the Temple College. The Wiatt Mite Society provided the seats, the books and the teachers. Thus it began as an evening school, and it has gone on growing and developing through the years. That house, bought for 54 cents in the first place, was sold and the proceeds given to the Temple College in order that it might open on Park avenue, and when we moved out of the original church that was given bodily to the Temple College, and the college sold it to the Christian Church and used the money to erect a building next door to us on Broad Street. Think of the influence of that 57 cents just for a moment. Almost 80,000 young people have gone through the classes of the Temple University, and think where they are. A year ago we estimated that there were 500 young men and women in the business department who earned nothing before they went there and who, after six months' instruction, were earning from $5 to $15 a week. Think of the added income, of the added comforts, which even the smallest departments had given, and then think of the Departments of Law, Medicine, Dentistry, Theology, Household Arts, the Normal School and the Teachers' College - nearly 4000 are now going in and out its various doors in various parts of the city. Just estimate how they will go and teach thousands more, and how those thousands will in turn teach many thousands more in their lifetime; think how it sweeps the world in a century with one techer, multiplying himself or herself a hundred times, perhaps, nearly every year. Two years ago - the smallest year of that work, - we took statistics of the Temple University students to learn their religious connection, and, of course, we found all kinds of religions because it is an undenominational institution. We ascertained that 504 young men of all denominations were studying for the Gospel ministry, in a single year. Now, if we graduate - and certainly we do - at least a hundred a year into the ministry of the various denominations, think what must have come to pass in twenty years. Think of it - two thousand people preaching the Gospel because Hattie May Wiatt invested her 54 cents; because she laid the foundations and gave her life for it.

I wish I had time to extend these remarks until you could realize more than one can without details. But I want to draw one or two more lessons and at once. In the first place, the people had faith in God, and they went ahead, trusting Him, and He has followed all the way. He has kept and protected us through every step with great care, and the future is just as safe, certainly, as is the past. Hattie May Wiatt was being used to do a mighty work. We sometimes think that when a life stops in eight years, or in ten, it is a shortened life, and that it is a broken life, that it was never completed. But in God's sight, every life is complete. Whether taken at eight, ten, twenty, thirty, fifty, or seventy years, every life is complete, when God takes it; hence, that is the case with the life of Hattie May Wiatt. Think of the sorrow that was in that home. I shall never forget the broken-hearted state of the family and friends who came to the funeral. Think of that mother sorrowing through all these years. I am making her heart more tender every moment as I speak, I am arousing within her the memory of those days which a mother can never forget. But Hattie died at the right time, she was called of God at exactly the moment when it was best for earth and for the kingdom to come that she should go. Her life was filled out, it was complete, and when we think of the influence of it upon the world, upon all the ages, we feel as though she was one of the greatest of earth who had accomplished that which leaders of armies had failed to do, and that which kings upon their thrones could not accomplish. Her life was just as long as any other.

The other thought that I would have dwelled upon if I had the time, is that being dead she yet speaks. Men may have powers of eloquence, they may sing with all the sweetness of angelic voices, and yet they may not speak as Hattie May Wiatt speaks tonight, as she will speak through your life as you go out and do differently from what you would have done if you had not been here. Hattie May Wiatt is speaking in tones of eloquence, sweet, divine and powerful, moving on upon the ages. Many men are counted great, many men are given credit for that which they do not do, but here is a life filled with motive power that sweeps on for all time. Twenty years and more have gone, and is she twenty years older in Heaven? When her mother meets her there will she be twenty years older than she was when she went?

When that little lad brought five loaves and two small fishes to be used of Christ for His great work of feeding the five thousand, it was precisely the same thing that Hattie May Wiatt did when she brought her 57 cents, and that lad and Hattie May Wiatt are now in the land on high. Does she see us? Yes, she does. It is one of the great comforts of life that every person is used of God, that every individual is loved just as closely and in careful detail as though he were the only person on this earth. Think of that, my brother, my sister, if there were not another person living on earth God could not take any more individual care of you than He now does. He sees and knows you; though you may think your life is humble, unknown, hidden, yet God sees all, and your life has probably just as great an influence for the uplift of mankind and the progress of His kingdom as has been the life of those who are seemingly great, seemingly famous in this world. There is no difference before God. The humblest of His Christian servants is doing just as much for His kingdom, when waiting, or doing faithfully their little duty, as are the seemingly great; and Hattie May Wiatt looks down from the towers of Heaven upon this world and sees all these myriads of powerful influences moving out upon the earth and shaping the course of the world beyond anything we can dream. She is happy on high with the thought that her life was so full, that it was so complete, that she lived really to be so old in the influences she threw upon this earth.


The Holiness of the Ordinary

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How does one find extraordinary holiness in ordinary moments? How does that which is such a part of the backdrop of our human experience as to be profaned take on the air of eternal significance and other worldly importance?

What sets apart one activity, object, or person from the other in the eyes of God and, eventually, of spiritually enlightened man?

As I often do, I went to the scriptures of my answers, initially focusing on the few uses of the word, “ordinary” in the New International Version from which these biblical quotes come.

Any of these scriptures would be sufficient fodder for a sermon on the subject. I offer these as note-crumbs from my morning’s biblical feast.

1 Samuel 21:4
But the priest answered David, "I don't have any ordinary bread on hand; however, there is some consecrated bread here—provided the men have kept themselves from women."
1 Samuel 21:3-5 (in Context) 1 Samuel 21 (Whole Chapter)

Here is an example of how something sacred, holy, and consecrated was used for very ordinary purposes. The priest wanted to make sure that the men in David’s band had not been with women in recent days. David replied that they had been too busy fighting a war to have had relations with women. In fact, the women had stayed away from them.

It makes you wonder if David had a twinkle in his eye.

Whatever his demeanor, David made a point that while the men in his company had been doing something very secular, even profane, God had consecrated them almost against their will.

Holiness had been thrust upon them by circumstances.

Isaiah 8:1
[Assyria, the LORD's Instrument ] The LORD said to me, "Take a large scroll and write on it with an ordinary pen: Maher-Shalal-Hash-Baz. Isaiah 8:1-3(in Context) Isaiah 8 (Whole Chapter)

In Isaiah, a very sacred task is being conducted with a very ordinary tool. The sacred and awesome Word of God was to be penned with a common instrument.

God still uses common instruments – people – to accomplish His ends and communicate His truth. 

Acts 4:13
When they saw the courage of Peter and John and realized that they were unschooled, ordinary men, they were astonished and they took note that these men had been with Jesus.
Acts 4:12-14 (in Context) Acts 4 (Whole Chapter)

Here, God uses ordinary men to communicate an extraordinary message. It was their ordinariness that grabbed the attention of the community. Otherwise, they might have been written off as speculative intellectuals spouting irrelevant eccentricities of philosophical curiosity.

The conclusion of the observers was that these men had been with Jesus who takes ordinary things and makes them holy.

Holiness in this case, is defined as something dedicated to God’s exclusive use as were Peter and John. Being with Jesus marked them forever. It did not removed their humanity but it made them forever immune to insignificance.   

Acts 7:20
"At that time Moses was born, and he was no ordinary child. For three months he was cared for in his father's house.
Acts 7:19-21 (in Context) Acts 7 (Whole Chapter)

Moses is distinguished as something beyond ordinary, even from birth. His parents could see it. The king’s daughter would see it. Perhaps no one else could. As he grew, he became more ordinary on the outside, but God always knew who he was and what he had been made to be.

When God found Moses after a long hiatus from the limelight, he was doing ordinary work in an ordinary place. Every day was most likely filled with certain repetitive tasks that a man of his intellect and past cultural exposure may have found boring.

But Moses seemed to relish the boredom of the ordinary because it was his refuge. It gave him security. However, he could not stay in the rut. There was something more. He had been created for a purpose. For him to stay one more day in Midian than God intended, would have been to desecrate that which was holy – his life. 

Acts 21:39
Paul answered, "I am a Jew, from Tarsus  in Cilicia, a citizen of no ordinarycity. Please let me speak to the people."Acts 21:38-40 (in Context) Acts 21(Whole Chapter) 

Romewas no ordinary city. But it was not a holy city. It was just important and powerful. Just! It would be consecrated at a later time by the blood of martyrs and the birth of the underground church.

Galatians 4:23
His son by the slave woman was born in the ordinary way; but his son by the free woman was born as the result of a promise.
Galatians 4:22-24 (in Context) Galatians 4 (Whole Chapter) 

Abraham had two sons. One was born by ordinary means, the other by extraordinary intervention of God’s promise and power to activate His promise. Yet, pregnancy and birth look about the same to the naked eye. Though as old as the hills, Sarah participated in an extraordinary and holy event through the same old tired, crude, time-honored methods.

It made the ordinary holy. 

Galatians 4:29
At that time the son born in the ordinary way persecuted the son born by the power of the Spirit. It is the same now.
Galatians 4:28-30 (in Context) Galatians 4 (Whole Chapter)

What makes the ordinary holy is the activity and influence of the Holy Spirit in the midst of our times and routines. Isaac was born by the power of the Spirit. When men and women are born anew that way today, it does not necessarily change their appearance (though smiles and attitudes do change a lot in the countenance). It doesn’t mean that our base bodily functions begin to take on a sweeter aroma. We don’t stop eating, sleeping, and perspiring. We still need baths.

What it does mean that the most ordinary things we do daily are somehow sanctified by who we are and what we are becoming in relation to God and His purposes. We can no longer wash dishes without it being a religious experience.

Everything is life has reflective value. Every tidbit of the life experience has theological significance for us to uncover and celebrate.

Celebration of the ordinary is the rightful expression of the holiness of the ordinary.

Humanity becomes a dance of grace.

Everything is uplifted and stamped with God’s seal of “The Lord saw that it was good.” (See Genesis 1 to be reminded of all the created elements and life forms that God called good.) 

Hebrews 11:23
By faith Moses' parents hid him for three months after he was born, because they saw he was no ordinary child, and they were not afraid of the king's edict.
Hebrews 11:22-24 (in Context) Hebrews 11 (Whole Chapter) 

The writer of Hebrews may have heard Stephen’s last sermon – or he may have heard about it from Paul, but it deserved repeating in a fresh context. The message here is faith. It is our faith response to the Spirit’s activity and God’s intentions that makes the holiness of the ordinary real to us. Even in the presence of something extraordinarily scared – whether a moment or an object, without faith, we are oblivious to reality.

Faith, according to Hebrews 11, is substantive and evidentiary. It illuminates the spiritually obvious for souls in oblivion.

When considering the holiness of the ordinary, faith is the lens through which we view the profane and humdrum world when we are gasping for the fresh air of wonder.

So then, what sets apart one activity, object, or person from the other in the eyes of God and, eventually, of spiritually enlightened man? It is nothing less than the activity and influence of the Spirit and the response of faith.


Flying with Both Wings

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I resist wearing labels such as "Conservative" or "Liberal" with an upper case "C" or "L."  It comes to surface as I hear the word,"wing" attached to directional terms such as "left" or "right."  This comes from a guy who cannot tell you off the top of his head what a "red state" is as opposed to a "blue state" or why they are opposed at all.

Words I like to describe words like these are "deceptive," "misleading," "ambiguous," and "meaningless."

The wing metaphor is helpful. Years ago, my grandson brought me one shoe to put on his foot and I sought to explain to him why he could go outside with one shoe on and why it might be like to feel lopsided.

Then, I thought about airplanes and realized I wouldn't consider getting on a left-winged or right winged airplane. I prefer my aerial transportation with two wings. Balance means a lot to me at that elevation.

I read an interview with a a man who thought he'd always been on the left wing of a theological issue. Then, he said, a movement emerged that went further to the left and left him in the center. When you are in the center, you might lean to one side or the other, but you are still in the middle.

I like public forums where "both" sides of  controversial issues are aired by the best and most articulate spokespeople for the particular point of view. Sometimes, I go away with the feeling that both made sense and I feel a tug of "leaning" as each speaks. It is then, up to me to find the balance after weighing all the arguments.

In the body politic, it is up to all the people to participate in that. The exercise needs to be completed with some distance from the shouting, the slogans, and the accusations each side makes against the other.

There is a sticky issue where the definitions have been in flux.

I don't want to live in a one-winged society. I am not impressed with one winged philosophies and would not feel happy about a brain with a single hemisphere. I want a multitude of counselors helping me look at all sides of any question. This is true in politics, religion, and business.

Proverbs 18:17   says, "The first to present his case seems right,  till another comes forward and questions him."

I think that is by design. Truth is simple, but not simplistic. The best course of action may not always be the most obvious. We need point and counterpoint to make good and wise decisions.

Sometimes, neither "side" has the best alternative and the truth is something so creative, clear, and compelling that no one is arguing it yet. In fact, when it is brought up, no one has the language or perspective to "get it" right away. It defies all the labels and transcends the "wings."

Perhaps that is why the American people as a body politic can be so shifting in their political party loyalties. As a people we know that you can't fly the "airline of state" with one wing - nor a business, nor a life.

If you are a decision maker, make sure you are getting good information and that all of your advisers are not always in 100% agreement. If you are not wrestling with some of the major matters that come before you, you are probably not getting the best out of your own abilities to think clearly and objectively.

We all have biases and they are helpful when they inform us. They are dangerous when they blind us. They are disastrous when the rule us. 

Fly with both wings!

How do you fly with both wings?

F - Face your own limitations in perspective, knowledge, and ability to know it all. There is a vast storehouse of knowledge that no human will ever possess. The only all-wise and all-knowing one is God and He ha distributed bits of His knowledge widely among diverse peoples. Everyone has some truth to bring to the table. To deny anyone a seat at the table deprives us all of the wisdom they bring.

L - Listen carefully to what others are saying. Respect those with whom you disagree and who disagree with you. Consider that people who are wrong about one thing may have insight into something else. Never throw out babies with the bath wash or dismiss the value of people because of your prejudices.

Y - Yin/Yang it. I am not talking about the Taoist philosophy, but I am utilizing the language and referring to the science of balance. The truth of a given situation may dwell in the tension between paradoxical opposites and failure to look for it there will deprive you of the truth you seek to make a good decision.

This is not really how our collective discourse operates, especially today. But in a time when people are divided and public figures attempt to divide and compartmentalize us even more, it needs to be. We need to understand that we have some truly common interests. We breath the same air and share many core values. It serves no interest other than the quest for power or the blind ambition to win not to concede points to each other in debate and not to find common ground where we can.

In the end, I do not want any one political philosophy or perspective to dominate the public arena. That would be frightening and chilling. History demonstrates the dangers of totalitarianism, fascism, and nationalism. In American life, I want people to be who we were designed collectively to be and that is not monolithic or blindly loyal. People of faith, of whom I am one, with never surrender their ultimate loyalty to any party, political philosophy, or candidate. We will have these convictions, but they will be secondary to two things.

  1. Our primary Ultimate Concern (religion). and
  2. Our common commitment to the common good of keeping our common plane (America in this case) in the air.

Fly with both wings.


Ultimate Concern

If there is ultimate value in the world, then that value has implications. Much of this was originally posted in 2009. I have added to it and rewritten some. It bounces off an interview with Paul Tillich, with whom the idea of the death God is sometimes associated. Though Tillich departs from many of the theological presuppositions I embrace, he also raising subjects and questions worthy of exploration.

The discussion seems pertinent to our context, a context where the milk-toast definitions of "Judaeo-Christianity" are fading into obscurity and the power of "Christendom" is ebbing. It is an age of undifferentiated spirituality on one hand and a time of highly differentiated and distinct commitment on the other. What is less and less appealing is an ultimate concern that is not ultimate once it is translated into human experience. What is putrid to the culture is cultural Christianity, a "faith" that is defined by adding something of God or a God motif to a preexisting lifestyle or political/philosophical system.

More than any of his ideas, Tillich's definition of religion as ultimate concern makes sense. It has far flung implications that arise from the validity of the definition as it is applied to orthodox faith.

Those implications are found in the changes that come to our lives as a result of defining what that ultimate concern is in our lives.

If I believe that something is "ultimate concern," then I must rethink all of my other concerns. I cannot call something ultimate and treat it as temporal or inconsequential.

I cannot assign anything the highest value in my life and be unaltered by it.

I cannot claim to follow the ultimate radical, Jesus, and not be radicalized in the process.

If the Kingdom of Jesus has, as its core ethic, love of God and others, it changes every attitude that drives my behavior and responses to other people.

" ... ultimate concern was always my main concern," Tillich said in the interview I am posting. He was somewhat misunderstood because he used the language, "God is dead," while referring to traditional views of God. What he believed about God himself was somewhat unclear. Tillich found it necessary to articulate his commitments in unorthodox ways.

The arguments about whether one religion worships the true God or not are dulled by my assumption that each of us has an incomplete and somewhat skewed view of God which God Himself transcends. Christians affirm that God is seen most clearly in Jesus Christ, but those who spent the most time with Him on earth were still confused about who He was throughout His lifetime.  We know what we need to know because it has been revealed to us, but even with our incomplete and "through the veil" knowledge of God, He gives us windows through which to peer and doors through which to pass that we might behold His glory --- the glory of the only begotten, full of grace and truth.

God broke through all sorts of barriers and misconceptions to draw the Magi to Bethlehem. He reached them because He knew where they were and what they were seeking when they did not even know.

The Hebrew scriptures are full of illustrations of God's overtures toward people from the nations caught up in pagan ideologies.

But the New Testament also shows us that people who were heirs of the purest truth available and authentic written Word were often clueless about the core of ultimate kingdom concern.  Such is a perpetual indictment God's people in the church who have been lulled into complacency by a civil religion that has been supported by the culture. 

It has been too easy to avoid being radical and living in a comfort zone has become a norm.

The problem of "what's the meaning of my life," was the driving force behind Tillich's own seeking and thought. While he came to different conclusions than I would, he raised questions that continue to challenge us to do something about the treasures we find in the field and those pearls of great price for which we sell all in order to gain what we see as most valuable.

What I declare as ultimate concern in my life is the Kingdom of God as embodied in and taught by Jesus of Nazareth, the Christ.

You may be on a different path. Perhaps you can still apply this principle of ultimate commitment arising out of ultimate concern. For me, the call is a clear and certain and the One making the call is real and personal.

So, what do I do? What must I do?

If I truly believe, as I do, that I have found the greatest treasure, I cannot honestly walk away from it unscathed and unaltered.

If I rethink everything, then I must rethink with an eye toward reorientation. If my orientation changes, it affects the view of everything else in my view. What was primary becomes peripheral. Some things simply fade into a dark background.

The reorientation, as implied, grows out of a refocus. The eye on the prize for a person of faith is an eye on the person who is "the Other." This "Other" is Holy/Wholly Other." (See Rudolph Otto - "The Idea of the Holy")The "Other" is different from us and that uniqueness impresses us into reverence. But this "Other" in the gospels is also one of us and, in leaving us, sends yet another to walk alongside us as Spirit and guide.

Tillich says that the most convincing evidence of any faith is the transformation of those who commit to it.

The kind of Jesus follower I have in mind may not even have a common language with cultural Christianity. 

I must refocus and that means I must reorient. What follows is redirection of the movement of my life, reevaluation of what is important, revisiting all my commitments of time, energy, and money, and restructuring all my beliefs and priorities.

As Paul wrote to the Corinthians in his second recorded letter and the 5th chapter, we don't know anything or anyone the same way any more now that we are in Christ. We don't even see Christ the same way from the inside.

Jesus said, and it is quoted in Matthew 13:44-45, that those who found treasures in the field and pearls of great price were willing to sell all to gain that one thing.

The great question in genie lore is what will you do with the three wishes if you have only three. I was told I was in violation of the genie code (though it was not stated at the outset) when I expressed my intention to first request unlimited wishes.

It seemed valid.

Whenever you have only a few choices you choose the choice that brings more choices. You buy the option machine. It is good business and it is good religion.

He said that the kingdom was like that.

Perhaps he calls the "narrow way"also the way of freedom and unlimited possibilities.

Jesus never proclaimed the Kingdom of God as being bad news. It was always good news. The bad news was all outside of that kingdom. His message was essentially and consistently positive to all but a few.

And those few were those who sought to impose religion from the outside and conform people into the image of God through coercion. Jesus taught transformation through the serendipitous discovery of pearls and treasures of ultimate value, concern, and joy.

He had bad news for the stubborn, for manipulators, and oppressors of people. It was bad news for those who refused to become like children, who saw reality and called it something else. It was bad news for those who, once convinced that He was the One, manufactured reasons not to believe. Doubters were welcome, even the one who said, "I believe; help me with my unbelief."

But change, Jesus knew and proclaimed, would not come through the oppressive structures of institutions.

Even when Paul wrote about conformity, it was a call and desire to be conformed to the likeness of Jesus. Conformity to the world, which is most of what we know in religion and secular society, is to be shunned and contrasted with transformation through the renewing of the mind.

It begins with finding the treasure, the pearl of great price that turns the lights on inside of us and compels us to divest ourselves of everything else.

I had posed the question: What are we willing to lose in order to gain everything?

More examples of this principle seem to surface in the world of success literature that in the annals of the church, though some in the world of success are first and foremost, people of faith.

The tragedy is, if I am not willing to lose donuts to gain health, an impulsive purchase to gain financial stability, or a few hours a week to gain financial freedom, am I willing to lose everything for an invisible kingdom?

If the message of the good news of the Kingdom of God is true, if life change (repentance) is possible, if eternity is what is being offered, and if divine help in making changes to our desires, attitudes, and behaviors is available AND if I am at least somewhat convinced that it is true, how can I ignore that? How can I place it on the back burner? How can I consign it to some insignificant corner of my life?

If it is ultimate concern, it calls for radical attention.

Somewhere along the line, I became convinced of the reality and viability of the Good News (gospel) and if that reality began to transform and refocus my thinking. It has been the dominant theme of my life for decades.

However, I sadly suspect that I have yet to sell all. How about you?

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A Fair Dose of Humility

"It is going to take a fair dose of humility to get us through life. And humility is no stranger to confidence. They are not only compatible, but they exist in a symbiotic relationship. In other words, they feed and nurture each other. Without true humility, we are insecure and constantly sensitive to the evaluations of other people. We are desperately afraid that they will not hold us in as high esteem as we hold ourselves. On the other hand, without an underlying confidence that comes from knowing who we are in Christ, we cannot afford to allow ourselves to “stoop down” and humble ourselves before God and people. Jesus is the greatest example we have of how one can be confident and humble at the same time." - Tom Sims, "The Confidence Factor




Reflecting on Psalm 55

Again, the psalmist expresses the full range of human emotion, sentiment, and prayers that can only truly be answered by divine, compassion, power, propitiation and absorption of reflexive wrath - wrath that boomerangs from God and back upon Himself. As offenders, we cannot bear it. As victims, we cannot be satisfied with what can be afflicted upon our enemies, nor healed by their suffering. God knows that and listens to us, answering more and less than what we ask - yet answering perfectly. The prayer may not reflect every beat of the heart of God, but it does reflect the heartbeat of humanity that is loved by God and God hears it patiently and affirmatively. The component that always brings it dead center is the reaffirmation of faith and the faith displayed by praying it in the first place. While we may be disappointed that God does not share our delight in the idea of the destruction of our enemies, He does understand our anger and pain and meets us in the midst of it to heal us and restore us.
 
To label the stanzas:
 
* God gives ear to our prayer.
 
* God knows our anguish.
 
* God frustrates the attempts of our enemies to destroy us.
 
* God shares our feelings of betrayal.
 
* We call to God and He saves us.
 
* Humans let us down.
 
* God never lets us down. We can cast every burden on Him.
 
* Everything will, ultimately, be made right. Trust God.
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"Give ear to my prayer, O God,
and hide not yourself from my plea for mercy!
Attend to me, and answer me;
I am restless in my complaint and I moan,
because of the noise of the enemy,
because of the oppression of the wicked.
For they drop trouble upon me,
and in anger they bear a grudge against me.''
 
''My heart is in anguish within me;
the terrors of death have fallen upon me.
Fear and trembling come upon me,
and horror overwhelms me.
And I say, “Oh, that I had wings like a dove!
I would fly away and be at rest;
yes, I would wander far away;
I would lodge in the wilderness; Selah
I would hurry to find a shelter
from the raging wind and tempest.”'
 
''Destroy, O Lord, divide their tongues;
for I see violence and strife in the city.
Day and night they go around it
on its walls,
and iniquity and trouble are within it;
ruin is in its midst;
oppression and fraud
do not depart from its marketplace.''
 
''For it is not an enemy who taunts me—
then I could bear it;
it is not an adversary who deals insolently with me—
then I could hide from him.
But it is you, a man, my equal,
my companion, my familiar friend.
We used to take sweet counsel together;
within God's house we walked in the throng.
Let death steal over them;
let them go down to Sheol alive;
for evil is in their dwelling place and in their heart.''
 
''But I call to God,
and the LORD will save me.
Evening and morning and at noon
I utter my complaint and moan,
and he hears my voice.
He redeems my soul in safety
from the battle that I wage,
for many are arrayed against me.
God will give ear and humble them,
he who is enthroned from of old, Selah
because they do not change
and do not fear God.''
 
''My companion stretched out his hand against his friends;
he violated his covenant.
His speech was smooth as butter,
yet war was in his heart;
his words were softer than oil,
yet they were drawn swords.''
 
''Cast your burden on the LORD,
and he will sustain you;
he will never permit
the righteous to be moved.''
 
''But you, O God, will cast them down
into the pit of destruction;
men of blood and treachery
shall not live out half their days.
But I will trust in you.''
 
(Psalm 55 ESV)

BEST

Abraham Lincoln: The best thing about the future is that it only comes one day at a time.

Malcolm S. Forbes: The best vision is insight.

Theodore Roosevelt: The best executive is the one who has sense enough to pick good men to do what he wants done, and self-restraint to keep from meddling with them while they do it.

Lincoln, Forbes, and Roosevelt have contributed to my thinking about best things today. In the early 70s, Jimmy Carter wrote a book inspired by something Admiral Hyman Rickover said to him. The title of the book was, "Why Not the Best?"

Whatever your politics, it is good reading.

Here is my contribution to those who, today, are aiming beyond mediocrity for what is best:

B - Better. The best is better than good. If all you want it good, there are many choices. none of them are the best. They are just OK.  For those whose aim is toward the best, today is opportune and tomorrow is a place of wonder. Progress is expected. Failures are the price of success and are merely temporary assessments on the road to what is incrementally better. People who are focused on being and doing their best are not discouraged by their imperfections, but inspired toward something better which is ever before them.

E - Ever - Ever improving, ever reaching, ever growing, ever expanding, and ever celebrating small victories are characteristics of people who aim high and keep aiming higher and higher. They are "EVER People." Such people have a sense of eternity in their hearts, knowing that this life is not all there is, but that it is important and that every day counts. The most effective "Ever People" are also "Forever People" who have grounded their lives in something and Someone who can interpret their existence in terms of eternal purpose. In the meantime, we keep going.

S - Satisfied Dissatisfaction - Those who are ever-becoming and never satisfied with mediocrity have a deep sense of satisfaction which is not to be confused with complacency. It comes from enjoying the journey, celebrating progress, and living by grace. Grace not only offers God's forgiveness for shortcomings and His mercy for our failures, but it gives us the ability to receive these and renew our hope that we can become more and do more. This sort of satisfaction is deep and inner and is never circumstantial or subject to our arbitrary score cards. Because it is not circumstantial, it means we can never be circumstantially satisfied while at the same time, we are kept by the power of perfect peace.

T - Trust - People who aim for the best are people who are cultivating an extraordinary capacity for faith in God, in themselves as servants of God, in others as children of God, and in the future as something being fashioned by God for the unfolding of a great and glorious purpose. They are infused with trust that what is better is not merely a fantasy, but a possibility. You cannot aim for the best without believing in it or in the possibility of its attainment.

All the BEST to you!

- Tom Sims, Workshops to Go

And More ....

Everyone has inside of him a piece of good news. The good news is that you don't know how great you can be! How much you can love! What you can accomplish! And what your potential is!” - Ann Frank

These kids are learning early that they can become MORE every day:

This video was uploaded to YouTube by their teacher  in honor of them being that teacher's first class ever.

Thanks to Sneefie from Singapore.

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The Road to Success

There is actually a road to Success in Central California. Traveling west from Porterville on highway 190, you will soon see signs indicating that you are, in fact, on the road to Success whether you knew it or not.

Life can be like that.

But know these things:

#1 - The road to success is paved with the cobblestones of failure, defeat, disappointment, and loss. We recently rented and viewed, "We Are Marshall." There is a poignant moment in this film set in 1971 about a team, a university, and a city coming back from the loss of an entire football team and many community leaders in one fatal airplane crash. The question arises about whether or not winning is everything and the coach muses that he has always felt that way and will feel that way again in the future. However, in that moment, what counted was getting the team on the field, showing up, risking loss, and playing the game. Once they had achieved that, they could begin to win somewhere down the road. You will never reach your destination if you don't get on the road. Take the risk.

#2 - The road to success has some sharp and unexpected turns. You can't anticipate all of them, but you better be flexible enough to turn with them or you will find yourself stuck in a field or gully or worse. Pay attention to the signs and to the road. Anticipate what you can, but don't rely on predictability. The thing about this road is that it can change in a moment and you need to be ready for change, crisis, and opportunity.

#3 - The road to success has some pit stops. Take them. There used to be only one stop on the West Virginia Turnpike between Princeton and Charleston. If you didn't take it, a little time card would show whether or not you had been speeding. There was no point. People would stop to kill time to cover up their haste. On the road of life you must stop to rest, refresh, and renew. You could press on past the rest places, but you do so to your detriment and the detriment of your cause. You will not be your best. You will not be as productive and efficient in your use of energy. Take the rest stops along the way.

#4 - There are narrow places, slow downs, road blocks, and other forms of frustration along the way that call for attention and intention that may not come naturally to you, but will be necessary to get through to success. You may believe that sitting in stop and go traffic is the most wasteful, useless, and infuriating thing you could ever be doing, but the Designer of the Road who is the Master of All Traffic and the Source, Force, and Course of your dreams and goals knows better. Develop techniques for stilling your restless soul and channeling your energy toward alternate tasks so that no time is lost. There can be and is purpose in every moment.

#5 - There are inclines and declines on the road to success. Sometimes it takes all your power to climb and sometimes you coast. It is all one road and one destination. Just as it is never always easy, it will not always be hard. Keep on keeping on through the difficulties.

#6 - There will be switchbacks - especially if your goals are as lofty as a high mountain peak. In mountain driving, which I love, there are 180 degree reversals - sometimes 360 degree turns around a hill. If you are watching a compass, it can be very confusing. You get the impression you are going away from your goal even though you are making progress. Switchbacks in driving and setbacks in life are part of the process. You can't get there "as the crow flies." You have to follow the flow of the road and it is determined by the topography of your times and circumstances. Keep your map and compass handy, watch the signs, and keep on keeping on.

#6 - There will be speed limits, sped bumps, warning signs, and arbitrary rules along the way. Honor them. They are purposeful. Someone who knows the road far better than you put them there. The Engineer of the Universe knows the science because He invented it and has called you to your purpose. None of these "hindrances" are designed to prevent your ultimate success.

#7 - The road will end or merge with another. I remember riding country roads with my dad at night on vacations and other times knowing that he was lost, but not flustered. He quoted his father with words that made little sense to me at the time. "Son," he said, "my daddy always said that all roads lead somewhere." And he was right. Another old boy just scratched his head when asked for directions at the country filling station, finally muttering, "Mister, you can't get there from here."

But you can. It may take some course corrections, more time than you allotted, more energy, a lot of patience, repairs on your vehicle, multiple vehicles, and change in your own life, but YOU CAN GET THERE.

You are on the road to success, whether or not you know it.

Stay with it and see you there!


The Wolf and the Pack

 

Wolf

THE WOLF

``Now is the Law of the Jungle---as old and true as the sky;

And the wolf that shall keep it may prosper, but the wolf that shall break it must die.

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As the creeper that girdles the tree-trunk, the Law runneth forward and back---

For the strength of the pack is the wolf, and the strength of the wolf is the pack.''

Rudyard Kipling

Remember that it is all about teamwork.

 

"Gettin' good players is easy. Gettin' 'em to play together is the hard part." - Casey Stengel


"The strength of the team is each individual member...the strength of each member is the team."- Coach Phil Jackson Chicago Bulls


"Men have never been individually self-sufficient." - Reinhold Niebuhr


" All winning teams are goal-oriented. Teams like these win consistently because everyone connected with them concentrates on specific objectives. They go about their business with blinders on; nothing will distract them from achieving their aims. " - Lou Holtz


Blessing

Times are tough.
You are tougher. Face the times.
 
Life is hard.
You are resilient. Keep moving forward.
 
The future is uncertain.
God is already there. Do not be afraid.
 
Hope is a rare commodity.
Hope is within the grasp of your imagination. Let it soar.
 
Money is scarce.
You have all you need in a seed. Plant it and watch it grow.
 
You are discouraged.
There is a great dream within you. Feed it, follow it, fulfill it.
 
You deeply desire a blessing.
Be a blessing.
 
You lack courage.
Encourage someone else.
 
You have nothing left to give.
Give what only God can supply.
 
You are frightened of failure.
Risk everything to be all you can be.
 
These are not idle words. This is how you must live if you will live above your circumstances.
 
Weighing all possible outcomes of the choices you can make right now, to do nothing, risk nothing, and give nothing will insure that nothing will come back to you. You will be a success in the art of failure by default.
 
However, if you risk extending yourself, you may also fail, but you will fail with the satisfaction of trying and with all the lessons you can only learn by climbing out on a limb.
 
But you might also succeed. Out on that limb, when circumstances cut it from under you, you may discover that you can fly.
 
You'll never find out without taking the big risk.

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Feed Your Dreams; Starve Your Fears

Feed your dreams; starve your fears. Whichever one you feed will grow.

Fears will grow to control you and clip your wings.

Dreams will consume you and cause you to soar.

It is your choice.

You will feed that to which you give the most attention and credit.

If you live by fear, you will live a crippled and limited life. Your best work, your highest aspirations, and your most enchanting creations will go to the grave with you.

If you live as a person of vision, you may not attain all of your goals, but you will attain many and they will live on after you are gone. They will inspire others to dream and create. You will create a ripple that will grow into a mighty tidal wave of dreams and accomplishments.

Feed your dreams and starve your fears. That is my recommendation and below are some ideas for how to feed dreams and starve fears.

FEED Your Dreams

F = Face them. I mean, put a face on them. Find something that represents them that you can gaze upon and be reminded of them.

E = Enliven them. Create activities that remind you of your dreams, move you closer toward them, and let you experience "foretastes" of what it will be like when they come true.

E - Elicit support. Ask people who are positive dreamers to be part of your dream building community. Build them up even as they build you up. Get folks on your team. Someone said that if you ever see a turtle at the top of a telephone pole and he tells you he got there by himself he is either lying or he doesn't understand the nature of things.

D - Determine to pursue them, work for them, and never let them go. Determination will take you from today until tomorrow. It is essential.

STARVE Your Fears

S = Saturate yourself with positive words, thoughts, and deeds. Give negativity no quarter. Make no room for it. Your prior decision to go for the dream has shut out all possibility of fear finding a resting place in your life. You are just too occupied with where you are going.

T - Time them. Go ahead and nod at your fears. Stare them down. Look at them for 30 seconds, a minute, whatever it takes to understand them. When the time is up, say,  "Time's up. That's all I can give you." Then walk away. If there was something valid about the fear, you took time to see it and make provisions. The rest is fruitless.

A - Attack your challenges as one who has the upper hand. Be the aggressor with your fears. Be proactive. Get fear on the run by taking charge of the situations that feed it.

R - Rest in God's promises. He has not given us the spirit of fear. He alone is worthy of our reverence and fear (awe). Reverence Him and let Him take care of all the other fears.

V - Value what is valuable. Your dreams are built upon principles you value. Your fears are largely irrational and based upon a concern that you will be severed from something temporal and fleeting. Focus on what endures and has infinite value. It will starve fear because it will take away all of its "junk food" nourishment.

E = Eliminate that which makes you fearful. I don't know what it is in your life, but there is something that feeds your fears. Identify it and eliminate it.


That is your assignment today!

 


Zipper Down on the Highway to WELATH

Have you ever discovered that your zipper is down and wondered how long you had been parading around in this condition and why no one informed you?

They may have been too embarrassed.

The solution is to let you be embarrassed.

How do you navigate these sensitive situations? I published a blog with a severely misspelled title. It stayed that way for at least a week. I spelled "wealth" as "welath."no one said anything - or noticed - OR did they? I was embarrassed - but not much.

I misspell all the time, but usually not in a title.

Should someone have said something or would that have been nit picky?

I love the movie and story from "The Pursuit of Happiness."

But have I really seen "The Pursuit of Happiness?"

Nope - a different movie. It is spelled HAPPYness - just like a recurring scene from the movie where Chris Gardner is repeatedly annoyed at the misspelling on a wall in his neighborhood.

It is funny how little things keep us from focusing on the pursuit of the BIG things.

Ultimately, that did not stop Chris Gardner. See his story if you are discouraged, thinking of giving up, or devastated by a zipper down after being in public for hours. Few people have had to overcome the challenges he faced on the road to success, but everyone has their own.

 

You have had a brilliant day, spoken to many people, overcome shyness or feelings of inadequacy. You are about to settle into the rest of self-congratulatory bliss and you notice that your zipper is down. Who knows how long!?

Or, you have committed some major blunder in pronouncing fallacy as fact, or misspelling a key word or something else that makes you feel silly.

Whether you are pursuing wealth or welath, the pursuit is the it of it and it will be hampered if you major on the minor distractions or allow perfectionism to become an excuse for inaction.

Wealth and welath are not the full measure of your success. Success is deeper and you are going to make a lot of blunders along the way.

The conditions were never just right for Chris Gardner to pursue his goals and they will never be just right for you - so get started now! There is no better time.

While we are at it, let's embrace a new philosophy of WELATH.

So, I say, "Lean into the error and create something new."

Pursue WELATH

W - Welcome life with all its imperfections, embarrassing moments, and hardships because there will be more joys that sorrows if you will pursue them and embrace them.

E - Elevate others along the way and build them up rather than tearing them down.

L - Live, Laugh, Love with expectancy, wonder, and authenticity.

A - Accept Abundance as the true measure of wealth. Abundance means that there is more than absolutely necessary for mere survival. Abundance is accepting grace as a lifestyle and as n endless supply from a generous God to children He loves. It also means that we appreciate what we receive and receive it with giddy joy.

T -Take the steps necessary to move incrementally toward your goals of wealth or welath. Just like it doesn't ultimately matter if you mess up the letter order, there may be some play ion the order in which you take these steps, but take them and do not expect to arrive quickly. "Get rich quick" almost always implies gimmickry. The studies i am doing loosely, informally, and occasionally from Proverbs on wealth and work all point to this reality. you could also call it TIME. Take Time!

H - Hope and keep hoping. Never surrender your possibility view of things to come. That which is not can be. Persevere with hope!

 

 


Take Charge and Win

When You Feel Like Giving Up- Take charge of your discouragement.

Everyone feels like giving up from time to time. You are physically, emotionally, or spiritually drained. That is not an indictment. Nor is a predictor of failure. All great successes have come to this place in their lives more than once.

Life is a race that you only lose when you quit.

However, you need to rest from time to time -- an pace yourself -- and allow for mood swings and down time.

You need people who can speak truth into your life and listen skillfully and non-judgmentally to your pain.

You need to invest in yourself, your health, and your hopes.

You may be depressed and need some medical or counseling help. I cannot know that from here. You know.

Don't quit. Tomorrow is an entirely different day with new possibilities.

Gerturde Ederle did quit - ONCE - in her attempt to swim the English Channel, but she came back and accomplished the feat. 

Gertrude Ederle - First Woman to Swim the English Channel from Kerri Lienhard on Vimeo.

You can do it. You can face another day. This one may be hard. It may take everything you have just to get dressed and out of bed today. The rewards may not be visible. The fog may be thick, but it will not always be that way.

I have a feeling about you and I am cheering for and praying for you. If you cannot believe in yourself, borrow some of my belief for now - and God's belief in you.

You can do it! You can do it! You can do it!

DO NOT QUIT! 

What are you reading? Are you reading? Are you filling your mind with positive literature?

What is in your car's CD player when you are driving? Is it positive, educational, and inspiring?

How do you spend your internet time?

With whom do you associate? Do you have a circle of positive friends who challenge, inspire, and affirm you?

What is your dream? What are your goals? Have you written them down? Do you have an action plan?

Have you made a conscious effort to practice gratitude today? Take five minutes to focus and give thanks.

What is the nature of your self-talk? Are you feeding yourself messages that build yourself up or tear yourself down?

What are you doing for others to give yourself away and repair a broken world?

Are you taking care of your nutritional and sleep needs? Exercising?

Finally, the question was asked about whether to respond to criticisms and insults by “giving as we get” or letting it slide. 

React or Respond = Who Is In Charge?

Take Charge of your reactions.

If I "give as I get," then I am surrendering control of my life to someone else's behaviors and choices. I am letting the other person run my life and emotions. 

If I must defend myself at all times, then I am saying that what someone else thinks of me or says about me changes who I am or determines how I feel about myself. 

Frank Sinatra said that the best revenge is success. 

Build your life as if your critics do not exist. Become a beacon of truth for them. Show them that you are stronger than their attacks by having a good day in spite of anything they say or do. That is my philosophy.

Am I always successful at it? 

Mostly -- not always. I am a work in progress. 

However, when I don't practice it, things don't go as well as when I do. 

I would much rather be proactive in my life than reactive. The Golden Rule is as much for us as it is for "them."

 


Persist


Sharpen Up

Sharpen Up

Are you taking full advantage of the opportunities that come to you with arms and legs every day?

You have been gifted with associates above you and below you on charts made by human hands who have the capacity to add value to your life with every conversation and as you observe them.

Some of them make big mistakes, but even they are not useless. You can use them as examples of what not to do.

You can learn from everyone with whom you come into contact.

Proverbs 27:17 in the NIV says, "As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another."

How does this happen? Many ways. Perhaps we can touch on a few of them with the word,SHARP.

S = Seeing - We observe the other person's life, choices, habits, techniques, strategies, behavior, and interactions and learn. If we will watch people closely, we will collect valuable information and will observe timeless principles being fleshed out in their lives. Paul once told some of the disciples to follow him as he followed Christ.

H = Hassle - The word means "struggle" or "contest," but we use it to refer to the resistance we sometimes get when we need to reevaluate our behaviors and choices. So it is sort of a struggle that begins within us and continues as others compete with us or challenge us about our behaviors. we get shaper and either change our choices or become stronger in them. Never discount the benefit of a good hassle.

A = Accountability - If we are never accountable to anyone, we will drift into an undisciplined and unproductive life. That is almost always true because God has made us for community and has designed systems of accountability into the framework of churches and businesses. Network marketing employs that principle. So, call your leader, your pastor, or your accountability partner and do it regularly.

R - Respect - We learn respect for ourselves by respecting others, We learn respect for others when we reverence and respect God and His handiwork in fashioning people so magnificently. When you look upon one of those polished pieces of iron with arms and legs, you are looking upon the very handiwork of God. You will get sharper by respecting people.

P - Practice - People give us the opportunity to practice principles, to practice our presentations, and to practice our principles. People sharpen people through practice, interaction, conversion, struggle, and shared labor.

Don't be a loner. If you make the choice to do it all yourself, by yourself, you will suffer unnecessary setbacks and delays. Let other people make you sharper and let them benefit through their association with you as well.


Praying in the Fullness of Joy

"You pray in your distress and need; would that you would also pray in the fullness of your joy and in your days of abundance."

- Kahil Gibran, The Prophet

We  pray when we will, but so often the will to pray is dependent upon desperation. That is not a bad thing if our desperation is one of constant longing for connection with the God who first thought of us and formed us. that sort of desperation is what Solomon alluded to when he said, "He hath set eternity in our hearts."

That is not, however, often the case. Ours is a desperation for temporal things and an avoidance of the negative consequences of emergencies.

Neither are emergencies all bad if growth is what emerges.

When prayer is so oriented, we beging to pray out of joy and abundance.


Thou Great First Cause, least understood, Who all my sense confin'd, To know but this, that Thou art good, And that myself am blind ...

UNIVERSAL PRAYER by Alexander Pope

    FATHER of all! In every age,
        In ev'ry clime ador'd,
    By saint, by savage, and by sage,
        Jehovah, Jove, or Lord!

    Thou Great First Cause, least understood,
        Who all my sense confin'd
    To know but this, that Thou art good,
        And that myself am blind:

    Yet gave me, in this dark estate,
        To see the good from ill;
    And, binding Nature fast in Fate,
        Left free the human Will.

    What Conscience dictates to be done,
        Or warns me not to do;
    This teach me more than Hell to shun,
        That more than Heav'n pursue.

    What blessings thy free bounty gives
        Let me not cast away;
    For God is paid when man receives;
        T' enjoy is to obey.

    Yet not to earth's contracted span
        Thy goodness let me bound,
    Or think thee Lord alone of man,
        When thousand worlds are round.

    Let not this weak, unknowing hand
        Presume thy bolts to throw,
    And teach damnation round the land
        On each I judge thy foe.

    If I am right, thy grace impart,
        Still in the right to stay;
    If I am wrong, O teach my heart
        To find that better way.

    Save me alike from foolish Pride
        Or impious Discontent,
    At aught thy wisdom has denied,
        Or aught that goodness lent.

    Teach me to feel another's woe,
        To right the fault I see:
    That mercy I to others show,
        That mercy show to me.

    Mean tho' I am, not wholly so,
        Since quicken'd by thy breath;
    O lead me whereso'er I go,
        Thro' this day's life or death!

    This day be bread and peace my lot:
        All else beneath the sun
    Though know'st if best bestow'd or not,
        And let Thy will be done.

    To Thee, whose temple is of Space,
        Whose altar earth, sea, skies,
    One chorus let all Beings raise!
        All Nature's incense rise!

What drew me here was the discovery of these lines:  "If I am right, thy grace impart, Still in the right to stay; If I am wrong, O teach my heart to find that better way."

I should like to be the recipient of that sort of humility and grace.

That search, through the miracle of Google, led me to another Pope - this one Clement XI, to whom is also attributed a "Universal Prayer."

Lord, I believe in you: increase my faith.
I trust in you: strengthen my trust.
I love you: let me love you more and more.
I am sorry for my sins: deepen my sorrow.

I worship you as my first beginning,
I long for you as my last end,
I praise you as my constant helper,
And call on you as my loving protector.

Guide me by your wisdom,
Correct me with your justice,
Comfort me with your mercy,
Protect me with your power.

I offer you, Lord, my thoughts: to be fixed on you;
My words: to have you for their theme;
My actions: to reflect my love for you;
My sufferings: to be endured for your greater glory.

I want to do what you ask of me:
In the way you ask,
For as long as you ask,
Because you ask it.

Lord, enlighten my understanding,
Strengthen my will,
Purify my heart,
and make me holy.

Help me to repent of my past sins
And to resist temptation in the future.
Help me to rise above my human weaknesses
And to grow stronger as a Christian.

Let me love you, my Lord and my God,
And see myself as I really am:
A pilgrim in this world,
A Christian called to respect and love
All whose lives I touch,
Those under my authority,
My friends and my enemies.

Help me to conquer anger with gentleness,
Greed by generosity,
Apathy by fervor.
Help me to forget myself
And reach out toward others.

Make me prudent in planning,
Courageous in taking risks.
Make me patient in suffering, unassuming in prosperity.

Keep me, Lord, attentive at prayer,
Temperate in food and drink,
Diligent in my work,
Firm in my good intentions.

Let my conscience be clear,
My conduct without fault,
My speech blameless,
My life well-ordered.
Put me on guard against my human weaknesses.
Let me cherish your love for me,
Keep your law,
And come at last to your salvation.

Teach me to realize that this world is passing,
That my true future is the happiness of heaven,
That life on earth is short,
And the life to come eternal.

Help me to prepare for death
With a proper fear of judgment,
But a greater trust in your goodness.
Lead me safely through death
To the endless joy of heaven.

Grant this through Christ our Lord. Amen.


Saturday Night with Red

Red Skelton was one of my favorite funny men of all time. He was always clean and always funny.

"God's children and their happiness are my reasons for being"

"I don't want to be called 'the greatest' or 'one of the greatest;' let other guys claim to be the best. I just want to be known as a clown because to me that's the height of my profession. It means you can do everything-sing, dance, and above all, make people laugh."

"Today's comics use four-letter words as a shortcut to thinking. They're shooting for that big laugh and it becomes a panic thing, using four-letter words to shock people."

"You know how start my day? I open my eyes and if I don't see candles and smell flowers, I get up." - On Johnny Carson, 1983

"Mom used to say I didn't run away from home my destiny just caught up with me at an early age."

Reflecting on his life: "I'd have avoided some of the pain if I could. Anyone would. But I wouldn't have missed knowing any of the people -- even the ones whose leaving hurt most. In fact, the only thing I'm sorry about is that I didn't meet one particular guy, a clown named Joe Skelton. You know, he sure picked the right profession. I mean, a clown's got it all. He never has to hold back: He can do as he pleases. The mouth and the eyes are painted on. So if you wanta cry, you can go right ahead. The make up won't smear. You'll still be smiling..."

"Any kid will run any errand for you, if you ask at bedtime."

"A fellow told me he was going to hang-glider school. He said, 'I've been going for three months.' I said, 'How many successful jumps do you need to make before you graduate?' He said, 'All of them.'"

"All men make mistakes, but married men find out about them sooner. " (from "1,911 Best Things Anybody Ever Said," )

About Freddy the Freeloader: “I get asked all the time; Where did you get the idea for Freddie the Freeloader, and who is Freddie really?

Well, I guess you might say that Freddie the Freeloader is a little bit of you, and a little bit of me, a little bit of all of us, you know.

He’s found out what love means. He knows the value of time. He knows that time is a glutton. We say we don't have time to do this or do that. There's plenty of time. The trick is to apply it. The greatest disease in the world today is procrastination.

And Freddie knows about all these things. And so do you.

He doesn't ask anybody to provide for him, because it would be taken away from you. He doesn't ask for equal rights if it’s going to give up some of yours.

And he knows one thing ... that patriotism is more powerful than guns.

He’s nice to everybody because he was taught that man is made in God’s image. He’s never met God in person and the next fella just might be him.

"I only come to life when there are people watching."

"I'm nuts and I know it. But so long as I make 'em laugh, they ain't going to lock me up. "

"Our principles are the springs of our actions. Our actions, the springs of our happiness or misery. Too much care, therefore, cannot be taken in forming our principles."

"His death was the first time that Ed Wynn ever made anyone sad."

"No matter what your heartache may be, laughing helps you forget it for a few seconds."

"I personally believe that each of us was put here for a purpose -- to build not to destroy. If I can make people smile, then I have served my purpose for God."

"Live by this credo: have a little laugh at life and look around you for happiness instead of sadness. Laughter has always brought me out of unhappy situations."



 



From No Name Fellowship on Where We Go From Here

No Name Fellowship published this statement while so many have remained silent.

Amidst Tragedy... Where Do We Go From Here?

No Name Fellowship has existed for the last 25 years to bring together Christian leaders in our community. We aim to collectively expose ourselves to the needs and assets of our city, exchange over those ideas and to embrace change.
 
In our current exploration of Knowing and Loving Our City, we recently hosted a gathering on Police and Community Engagement. Our desire was to show that The Church of Fresno could work and partner with the Police Department and other non-profits for peace in every neighborhood of Fresno.
 
We understand that there is a heavy national, and even some local, distrust of the police department. But we believe that listening to both #blacklivesmatter and #alllivesmatter perspectives are important. As we come out of a hard week of violence against black lives and against police officers, we wanted to offer some thoughts.
 
As No Name Fellowship we believe that...
 
We cannot be silent about the systemic racism that marginalizes, even subconsciously, African American lives. Our silence makes us implicit in this system.
 
We cannot allow The Church to think that it needs to choose between honorable law enforcement officers and the value of black lives.
 
There are good things happening in Fresno and there is evil in Fresno; sometimes they get mixed up and we get confused. We must work together to understand each other.
 
We cannot allow the conversation to be hijacked by violent people who were violent before these riots and will be violent after.
 
We cannot confuse the call for police officer accountability to be construed as a lack of support or appreciation for them or the job they do.
 
We cannot take this "battle" out of the spiritual arena and label it as merely a social exercise or a secular conversation. We are engaged in a spiritual warfare where prayer is vital, the Gospel of Jesus Christ and His Kingdom is central, and the Great Commandment is our highest law.
 
We cannot be intimidated by ignorant criticism.
 
We must stand with the broken, pray for the grieving, and walk alongside all of our brothers and sisters.
 
We need to mute the criticism of our brothers who chose to walk Shaw and rather put their courage and stance in perspective. They were the peacemakers. They kept the movement peaceful and orderly. They were salt and light. They were where the church must be - in the midst of the pain, the sorrow, and the people.
 
We are called to be peacemakers.
 
We are called to be led by and speak love. Any word not spoken in love is, at its core, untruth because it does not and cannot reveal the truth of who God is.
 
The Church is the only one that has been commissioned to preach, teach, and facilitate reconciliation. May we reclaim this high calling.
 
As a collection of Christian pastors, non-profits, and business leaders we pray that you will consider what your next step is to be a reconciler in these tumultuous times. It takes courage to listen to pain, to comfort the mourning, and to work towards a better future that is full of God’s shalom. A shalom where black lives are valued equally and where police officers are respected for the difficult task at hand. Until then we will pray and work towards a new future where heaven comes to earth. 

- No Name Steering Committee


Does Your Life Matter?

I would rather win a friend than win a debate.

Is that because I just want to live a peaceful life and be well liked?

That is a temptation. That is not the reason.

The reason is because I believe my life matters, must matter, and is up to me, under God, to matter.

Does your life matter?

If it does, then it needs some work and so does mine. It needs some challenges. It needs some struggle. It needs some friends.

I have never seen permanent change come to the heart of a stubborn soul who lost a debate. I have seen such a soul regroup, refine his or her argument, escalate in confrontational style, and come back to play dirty.

Friendships, on the other hand, affirm that the life of the other person matters, their perspective matters, what they have to say matters, and that relationships matter.

God is not a theory. The Logos became flesh and dwelt among us.  Truth always existed and glory has always been manifested, but "grace and truth" came in Jesus and we "beheld his glory."

Our lives mattered to him and matter to him.

"Not a sparrow falls" unnoticed, unloved, and undervalued.

You are the sparrows of whom he referred.

I'd like to play it safe and stay silent, but my life has to matter. In order for it to matter most, I have to lay it on the line and be willing to lose it.

I have stated why every phrase that that ends with the words, "...lives matter" is of great value and propelling to me. I do not want to dull the impact of any.

I have stated why I would never "unfriend" someone for their political views.

I have stated my utter and long-term disgust for racism and admitted that its residual effects have infected elements of my own heart as I have lived and benefited from systems built upon it.

I have stated my yearning for understanding, empathy, and reconciliation.

I have stated and restated many things, most of which are just words and thoughts and of no greater value than anyone else's.

I have also stated my support of peaceful protest - not for the violence that some use it as an opportunity to perpetrate, but for deeper reasons. It may not be the solution, but it puts the problem in our faces so that people talk about it.

I think it should be peaceful and self-disciplined, but it need not be benign and without emotion.

But there must be more. There must be much more.

I dearly love my African American friends, brothers, sisters, teachers, mentors, and heroes. They have brought a depth and perspective to my life that would be so lacking without them. Life would be, well, colorless.

I love police officers, even those with serious flaws. I have never met anyone without a serious flaw.  I have met so many with compassion, integrity, and commitment.

I love Democrats, Republicans, Libertarians, Socialists, and non-declared folks. My wife is non-declared, but she declared for me and that is enough.

I love my fellow Christians. I love my Muslim friends and all my non-religious friends. I love my atheist friends, even those who think my most cherished beliefs are the cause of all the evil in the world. I cringe when I hear jokes at their expense or catch-phrases that diminish their value, dehumanize them, or assume that they are anything but precious to God.

I love the innocent and God loves them, be God also loves the guilty because we have all sinned and fallen short of God's glory.

Severing relationships over disagreement is a huge problem. Christians cannot make that a practice because we then leave the world without our salt and light. We must be salt and light to each other and we cannot be that in isolation.

It is like saying "you don't matter," but also, "I don't matter and I cannot make a difference in your life."

Yes, it is hard to read and listen to hateful words, callous speech, sanctified ignorance, and overt bigotry. But it is better than leaving the world. You cannot retreat., The world needs you. The world needs us.

We will miss hearing, learning, and addressing the deeper-than-words attitudes, fears, and pain of those who disagree with us.

We will grow more divided and then, only confrontation will be an option and confrontation is a very poor substitute for systemic change. Laws might get better to regulate parameters of how we behave toward each other, but as soon as leadership changes or a new generation emerges, they can be overturned. Then we are back to the same old problems.

Your life matters. Your voice matters. Your perspective matters. Your pain matters.

But, some of us are just trying to get by, live as quietly and comfortably as possible, avoid the difficult issues, do our religious "thing," be comforted by scripture and prayer, and never be misunderstood. We avoid risks and criticism quite successfully. We find our niches and stay in them. It is tempting to go that way. It is so tempting to retreat and live in pseudo peace.

But our lives must matter.

Our lives do matter. 

God has called us to live and if we do not live out loud, something very important and significant is lost --- you.

“There was a very cautious man
Who never laughed or played
He never risked, he never tried,
He never sang or prayed.
And when he on day passed away,
His insurance was denied,
For since he never really lived,
They claimed he never really died.

(Anonymous poem)”


John C. Maxwell, Developing the Leader Within You

 

 

 

 


Whose Lives Matter?

Words and phrases are both galvanizing and divisive. They can explain and they can confuse. They can coalesce thinking or  muddle it. They can be misinterpreted,  misunderstood, and misused or they can serve as platforms for thinking, springboards of discussion, and meeting places for mutual understanding.

So, when we hear "black lives matter," some immediately retort, "but all lives matter," or "my life matters too."

Of course they do. That is not the point.

And police lives matter. In fact, we have to say that a little more now because a few maladjusted souls are making targets of them and it only takes a few ... just like it only takes a few maladjusted police officers to cause a lot of trouble.

And no one has decried the officer's deaths in Dallas anymore than the people who were crying that black lives matter.

When our slogan becomes a movement, immediately it draws more organized criticism and suspicion. People construct conspiracy theories. They make generalizations. They spin the news to make it make their point.

For me, "black lives matter" means that the lives of a group of people whose lives seem to have been devalued matter as much as everyone else's.

There is a history of injustice, fear, prejudice, and inequity here that needs to be addressed and it needs to be addressed on a systemic level.

Why do we focus on one or two groups? Why do we need to be specific? Why do we need to call out one or another when there is what seems to be wrongful death?

Specificity and specialization is about taking a general principle and making sure we are applying it across the board. We give attention to those areas where we see neglect. You put a bandage on the part of your body that is bleeding. You give extra attention to the part that is in pain. You fight infection where it appears.

I am also guilty of marginalizing people. I have to work at something that I am ashamed to admit.

If I hear of death and carnage, I check the geography. If it is in my town, I am extremely interested. If it is in my country among people I might know or understand, I am also interested. The farther I am removed from the people or the less I understand them and their particular pain, the more I think that this sort of thing is normal for them, the less likely I am to know them or understand their life situation and the more I have to work at my concern.

I am ashamed of this human tendency.

We relate to "our own kind."

Right now, I see the need to come to the aid of young African American males (and other African Americans) who have to take precautions I never have had to take to stay alive when confronted with authorities sworn to protect them. Most police will treat them fairly and justly. Some will not. Many times, they will be treated differently.

Many in power will have to work at fairness and should be applauded when they do.

I also see the need to show extra love and support for law enforcement officers who are always in danger, but mostly love their jobs and the adventure of it. We need to support them and pray for them and realize that just because they put themselves in harm's way, it gives no one license to harm them. Holding the bad apples accountable is not the same as wishing any of them harm.

Again, we have seen again and again, how much death can be caused by a lone shooter who will seize any opportunity to do harm.

It is not always overt racism that may be causing the fear and injustice. It is not always the individual kind where we hate the person standing in front of us. It is more subtle than that. We have to work to overcome the racism we do not readily see influencing us. We have to get specific. We have to tune our hearts to hear the cries and humanity of people who are not just like us.

Nor is it a disrespect for authority and law to insist that a high standard of oversight and accountability govern people who are empowered to use lethal force to protect society and themselves. It is an awesome responsibility and any power that is unchecked by outside oversight can easily become corrupt or have a relaxed attitude toward corruption.

Black lives matter.

Police lives matter.

Your life matters.

All lives matter.

All are true and none needs to go unsaid, general or specific.

When we twitch at the mere suggestion, it seems that we are feeling threatened or that we fear we will lose some of our standing. It is, of course, an irrational fear, but it is present and it is so shameful to us that to name it is, itself, a threat to our self-concept.

We are not like that. We don't think that way. We are more sophisticated. We speak these things to ourselves to avoid the cognitive dissonance of not applying everything we think and profess we believe.

My sons are non-white. They are adopted. They are mine. One identifies and is identified by law enforcement as black. One is very functional. The other struggles with very difficult challenges. I worry about him being mistaken for an aggressor when he is acting in a way that seems normal to him. I have seen authorities change their approach to him when I show up and they discover that I am his father. I have seen it.

I worry a little less about the other son, but I do worry.  He is more likely to understand a command and comply carefully, but he needs to be very careful.

I have never been careful with the police, never afraid to approach them, never leery of extending my hand or patting them on the back or striking up a conversation. I have never been to intimidated to even honk at one, pull him over, walk up to his car, and ask a question. I am less likely to do that today, but I have never been afraid. I have approached them in the dark. I have done lots of things that I would not advise others to do .... and I am alive.

There are two reasons why I might be more careful now --- for my sake and safety, but also for the officer's feelings of well-being. If I love my fellow man, I do not look upon the officer as just a cop, but as a human being, a man or a woman who has the same fears and feelings that I do.

So, I have to single him or her out to say that his or her life matters -- because I could marginalize it as the life of someone who feels privileged, or better than us, or over us, or above the law.

I could marginalize the life of an African American as "not of my tribe," or "prone to be disrespectful and defiant."

Both would be equally ignorant and unjust. Both need to be addressed with specific statements that zero in on their lives mattering.

America has a long history of injustices that I had hoped we were over. The way we are dividing our population up in our thinking and pitting our sympathies against one another is indicative of the sad reality that we have a long way to go. 

Americans have the right to criticize their officials and march anytime ... and to do so loudly. They have the right to oversight They have the right to investigate and observe. They have the right to the final word on how their government operates. They have the right to demand that their public servants earn their trust by spending time with them, listening to them, and being transparent in their work.

What they do not have the right to do is to take life through murder whether they are in uniform or out of uniform.

Citizens have the responsibility to initiate good will as well and to appreciate those who serve them.

There is no choice that needs to be made here.

Whoever is most vulnerable at any time in history is the one who needs to be named as the one whose life matters.

It is not a contest.

 


God Shed His Grace on Thee, America

Our greatest strengths are our greatest weaknesses. Our greatest weaknesses are our greatest strengths. Our greatest pitfalls are those principles that define us and that we cannot be who we are without. We can do this thing called America well or we can mess it up badly. It is a risk worth taking. At the core of who we are there lives a people who are free and whose human dignity is codified in our annals, whose realization of their freedom is always in process, and whose understanding of the nature of our community is never complete. Against the backdrop of a land of beauty and plenty, conquered, reconquered, corrupted, blood-stained, disputed, vanquished, wild, and settled, is a system. It is a system rooted in values that not even the framers of their articulation fully grasped. It is a body of literature and a grand idea that has been entrusted to us to flesh out and carry to its extremities of application. It is an aspiration that founders had for themselves but held back from others. Yet, it was larger than them, larger than their comprehension, larger than their generation. Liberty, dignity, freedom, and self-government are the building blocks upon which each new generation must build a righteous government, a compassionate society, and a beloved community. America, God has shed His grace on thee. May He now crown our good with brotherhood from sea to shining sea.