The Discreet Elegance of Prudence

We must be taught to be subtle. It is an art form. It is a delicate touch, a certain finesse with which we exercise discretion and restraint because we have lived long enough and learned enough to know how. The teachings of the elders inform us that we are not bound by the constant torrents of haste to act on every impulse or to react to every challenge. Knowledge and discretion train us to be deliberate, sometimes hesitant, and always careful to do and say the right thing.

Proverbs 1:4 complements the list of benefits of the wise words contained in this timeless book. It says that the proverbs exist also, "to give subtilty to the simple, to the young man knowledge and discretion."

It is an elegant art, this skill of subtlety. It is as valuable at what it prevents as what it facilitates. Because of its power to diffuse hostility before it becomes out-of-control anger, it is a useful tool in the avoidance of all manner of trouble. Because it is not merely a form of damage control, it enables us to make friends, build alliances, and create positive scenarios where they have not existed before.

If we aspire to a life of peace and success, we do well to study more of the wisdom that has come to us from a long train of parents and grandparents. We can learn on our own, but we will do so by much trial and error that can be bypassed if we stand on their shoulders. That way, we can make our own mistakes and pass on that wisdom, built of the foundation of scripture and history, to a new generation who can continue to build.